I remember sometimes ago when we had to pass through the barracks just to get to our house, we had just returned from a long journey and didn’t want the stress of going to pass the long route to the house and we had forgotten our gate pass. We just had to try our luck. At the first gate, we explained and was granted easy access🙌🙌🙌…
At the second gate, it wasn’t as easy as we thought. We talked, begged and after waiting a while, were asked to go. 😎🏃🏃🏃
On the way, I began to think about the whole incident… 😱😱😱
💡As Christians are there instances, where we have given easy access to the enemy?? Are there instances we have allowed the strangers to come into our lives… As Christian soldiers, we must guard our territories… Give no room to the enemies…
Today I want to talk about building boundaries…
💡To build boundaries is to put standards/checks in place in other to secure our future.
💡Boundaries define your person, your personal values, your core values and your traditional values.
💡Building Healthy Boundaries has to do with having self control in every area of your life.
We live in a time where evil is legalized. Where people do different things and feel they can go free. Where evil is more celebrated than good.
In Exodus 19:10-16,Moses had to set boundaries around the mountain so that his people do not touch the base of the mountain. Anyone who does so will die. So Moses went out to inform the people. The Lord is coming, wash your clothes. And also today, we see in 1 Thess 4:16 For the Lord Himself will descend from heaven with a shout, with the voice of an archangel, and with the trumpet of God. And the dead in Christ will rise first.
Moses went around telling them to get rid of every spot and wrinkle. He told them to consecrate themselves . brethren, it’s time to stay pure and holy. The same words from Moses is still ringing in our generation… the Lord is coming and we must warn our generation about it.
Just as Moses set the boundaries for the people of israel, so must we as parents set the boundaries for our children… teaching the right values… the right standards of life…teaching them how to value love and integrity more than money.
As young adults (teenagers and youths), you must set boundaries that will guard your every decision. Set boundaries in your relationship with the opposite sex. Keep your virginity. Be chaste and pure.No one is allowed to touch your private part…that is why it is called PRIVATE.
Proverbs 25:28 NKJV
Whoever has no rule over his own spirit Is like a city broken down, without walls.
ADVANTAGES OF BUILDING BOUNDARIES
Daniel 1:8 NKJV
But Daniel purposed in his heart that he would not defile himself with the portion of the king’s delicacies, nor with the wine which he drank; therefore he requested of the chief of the eunuchs that he might not defile himself.
II Timothy 2:4 NKJV
No one engaged in warfare entangles himself with the affairs of this life, that he may please him who enlisted him as a soldier.
The truth is that every time you cross your boundaries, there is a penalty to pay. You might not see the immediate effect but it will gradually dawn on you at the end of the day.
As Christians, we must build healthy boundaries because these boundaries reveal our true identity.
WAYS OF BUILDING BOUNDARIES
WHAT AREAS DO YOU NEED TO BUILD BOUNDARIES
Proverbs 23:21 NKJV
For the drunkard and the glutton will come to poverty, And drowsiness will clothe a man with rags.
Build healthy boundaries around your eating habits. Eat well. Eat healthy. Eat balanced diet.
1 Tim 6: 10..the love of money is the root of all evil.
One of my mentors once said “if you spend all you earn, your wisdom pipe is blocked.
This means you need to build healthy boundaries around your finances
Don’t play omnipresent trying to solve everyone’s problem. Set smart goals that will help you achieve all you plan to. Set short term, medium term and long term goals
For the young people, the right moment is when you are married and you do it with your spouse
For those who are married, it is only within the confines of marriage that God permits sex.
Don’t cast your pearls amongst swans or pigs
Choose to bedifferent
Rule your life with a hand of iron
Have self control
At the end of the day, you willbe glad that you held on.